COVID-19 Coping

The co-occurrence of positive and painful emotions

Thinking about the COVID-19 pandemic as a type of extended collective crisis allows us to look at research on other forms of crises to give us hints as to the best ways to get through this one. One important thing we have learned is that positive emotions (those with a positive valence, or feel good) and painful emotions (those with a negative valence, or feel bad) happen together.1,2 That doesn’t mean that we necessarily mean feel good and bad at the same time; typically, when positive emotions and painful emotions compete for attention, our pain is likely to win out.3 Rather, because many emotions can occur over the space of hours, days, or weeks, positive emotions can, and often do, occur even in the most painful of times.

Sometimes there are entire seasons of life that are dominated by intense painful emotions. Grief and bereavement or acute trauma recovery are times often characterized by stress and suffering.4,5 This period of life, collectively coping with the global viral pandemic of COVID-19, may be another. Already since the start of the pandemic, many people are grieving the loss of loved ones, jobs, and a loss of “normalcy”. Nearly everyone is adjusting to disrupted plans and chronic uncertainty. In times like these, it is crucial that people allow themselves to accept and feel their painful emotions, as difficult as that may be.4

And yet, even these most stressful times may include moments or whole periods of positive emotional reprieve. What’s more, when people do have times of feeling good amid periods of intense stress, they are more likely to experience better eventual psychological recovery, including less depression and stronger social bonds.1,2,7-10 Experiencing positive emotion breathes space into suffering and act as a reprieve from chronic painful feelings. Furthermore, even brief moments of positive emotion can broaden our scope of thinking, helping us respond to problems more flexibly11 and build resources – such as new knowledge or closer relationships – that we can draw on later as needed.12

Emotional balance during times of crisis is about allowing a full range of positive and painful emotions. Whatever your emotional experiences, painful or pleasant, remember to treat yourself with understanding.13  You are coping and that is good enough.  


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